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1、居有常。业无变。（4） 事虽小。勿擅为。苟擅为。子道亏。物虽小。勿私藏。苟私藏。亲心伤。（5） 亲所好。力为具。亲所恶。谨为去。身有伤。贻亲忧。德有伤。贻亲羞。亲爱我。孝何难。亲憎我。孝方贤。（6） 亲有过。谏使更。怡吾色。柔吾声。谏不入。悦复谏。号泣随。达无怨。（7） 亲有疾。药先尝。昼夜待。不离床。丧三年。常悲咽。居处变。酒肉绝。丧尽礼。祭尽诚。事死者。如事生。出则弟（8） 兄道友。弟道恭。兄弟睦。孝在中。财物轻。怨何生。言语忍。忿自泯。（9） 或饮食。或坐走。长者先。幼者后。长呼人。即代叫。人不在。已即到。（10） 称尊长。勿呼名。对尊长。勿见能。路遇长。疾行揖。长无言。退恭立。骑下马。

2、乘下车。过犹待。百步余。（11） 长者立。幼勿坐。长者坐。命乃坐。尊长前。声要低。低不闻。却非宜。进必 。退必迟。问起对。视勿移。（12） 事诸父。如事父。事诸兄。如事兄。谨（13） 朝起早。夜眠迟。老易至。惜此时。晨必盥。兼漱口。便溺回。辄洗手。（14） 冠必正。纽必节。袜与履。俱紧切。置冠服。有定位。勿乱顿。致污秽。（15） 衣贵洁。不贵华。上循分。下 家。对饮食。勿拣择。食适可。勿过则。年方少。少饮酒。饮酒醉。最为丑。（16） 步从容。立端正。揖深圆。拜恭敬。勿践或。勿跛倚。勿箕踞。勿摇 。（17） 缓揭帘。勿有声。宽转弯。勿触棱。执虚器。如执盈。入虚室。如有人。事勿忙。忙多错。勿畏难。

3、勿轻略。门闹场。绝勿近。邪僻事。绝勿问。（18） 将入门。问孰存。将上堂。声必扬。人问谁。对以名。吾与我。不分明。用人物。须明求。倘不问。即为偷。借人物。及时还。后有急。借不难。信（19）凡出言. 信为先 .诈与妄 .奚可焉.话说多. 不如少. 惟其是 .勿佞巧.奸巧语. 秽污词 .市井气 .切戒之.（20）见未真. 勿轻言. 知未的. 勿轻传.事非宜. 勿轻诺. 苟轻诺. 进退难.凡道字. 重且舒 .勿急疾 .勿模糊.彼说长 .此说短 .不关己. 莫闲管.（21）见人善. 即思齐. 纵去远. 以渐跻.见人恶. 即内省 .有则改 .无加警.（22）唯德学. 唯才艺. 不如人. 当自励.若衣服

4、.若饮食 .不如人 .勿生戚.（23）闻过怒. 闻誉乐 .损友来 .益友却闻誉恐 .闻过欣 .直谅士. 渐相亲.（24）无心非 .名为错 .有心非 .名为恶.过能改 .归于无 .倘掩饰 .增一辜.泛爱众（25）凡是人 .皆须爱. 天同覆 .地同载.（26）行高者 .名自高 .人所重 .非貌高.才大者 .望自大. 人所服 .非言大.（27）己有能. 勿自私 .人所能. 勿轻訾.勿谄富 .勿骄贫 .勿厌故 .勿喜新.人不闲 .勿事搅. 人不安 .勿话扰.（28）人有短. 切莫揭 .人有私. 切莫说.道人善 .即是善 .人知之 .愈思勉.扬人恶 .即是恶 .疾之甚. 祸且作.善相劝 .德皆建 .过不

5、规. 道两亏.（29）凡取舆.贵分晓. 舆宜多. 即速已.将加人 .先问己. 己不欲 .即速已.恩欲报 .怨欲忘. 抱怨短. 报恩长.（30）待婢仆 .身贵端. 虽贵端 .慈而宽.势服人 .心不然 .理服人. 方无言.亲仁（31）同是人 .类不齐 .流俗众. 仁者希.果仁者 .人多畏 .言不讳 .色不媚.能亲仁 .无限好 .德日进 .过日少.不亲仁 .无限害 .小人进. 百事坏.余力 学文（32）不力行 .但学文 .长浮华. 成何人但力行 .不学文. 任己见. 昧理真（33）读书法 .有三到 .心眼口 .信皆要.方读此 .勿慕彼. 此未终 .彼勿起 .宽为限 .紧用功. 工夫到 .滞塞通.心有

6、疑. 随札记. 就人问 .求确义.（34）房室清 .墙壁净. 几案洁 .笔砚正.墨磨偏 .心不端 .字不敬 .心先病.列典籍 .有定处. 读看毕 .还原处.虽有急. 卷束齐 .有缺坏 .就补之.非圣贤. 屏勿视 .蔽聪明 .坏心志.勿自暴 .勿自弃 .圣与贤 .可驯致.DI ZI GUIGUIDE TO A HAPPY LIFEOutlineDI ZI GUI or Standards for Being a Good Student and Child is a book that was taught by Chinese saints and sages of the ancient p

7、ast. The book first teaches us how to be dutiful to our parents, and how to be respectful and loving to our siblings. It then teaches us how to be cautious with all people, matters, and objects in our daily lives; how to be a trustworthy person; and to believe in the teachings of the ancient saints

8、and sages.Furthermore, it teaches us to love all equally, and to be close to and learn from people of virtue and compassion. Only when we have accomplished all the above can we then study further and learn literature and art to improve the quality of our cultural and spiritual lives.Chapter 1At Home

9、, Be Dutiful to My ParentsWhen my parents call me, I will answer them right away. When they ask me to do something, I will do it quickly. When my parents instruct me, I will listen respectfully. When my parents instruct me, I will obey and accept their scolding. I will try hard to change and improve

10、 myself, to start anew.In the winter, I will keep my parents warm; in the summer, I will keep my parents cool. I will always greet my parents in the morning to show them that I care. At night I will always make sure my parents rest well. Before going out, I must tell my parents where I am going, for

11、 parents are always concerned about their children. After returning home, I must go and see my parents to let them know I am back, so they do not worry about me. I will maintain a permanent place to stay and lead a routine life. I will persist in whatever I do and will not change my aspiration at wi

12、ll.A matter might be trivial, but if it is wrong to do it or unfair to another person, I must not do it thinking it will bear little or no consequence. If I do, I am not being a dutiful child because my parents would not want to see me doing things that are irrational or illegal. Even though an obje

13、ct might be small, I will not keep it a secret from my parents. If I do, I will hurt my parents feelings.If whatever pleases my parents is fair and reasonable, I will try my best to attain it for them. If something displeases my parents, if within reason I will cautiously keep it away from them. Whe

14、n my body is hurt, my parents will be worried. If my virtues are compromised, my parents will feel ashamed. When I have loving parents, it is not difficult to be dutiful to them. But if I can be dutiful to parents who hate me, only then will I meet the standards of the saints and sages for being a d

15、utiful child.When my parents do wrong, I will urge them to change. I will do it with a kind facial expression and a warm gentle voice. If they do not accept my advice, I will wait until they are in a happier mood before I attempt to dissuade them again, followed by crying, if necessary, to make them

16、 understand. If they end up whipping me I will not hold a grudge against them.When my parents are ill, I will taste the medicine before giving it to them. I will take care of them night and day and stay by their bedside. During the first three years of mourning after my parents have passed away, I w

17、ill remember them with gratitude and feel sad often for not being able to repay them for their kindness in raising me. During this period I will arrange my home to reflect my grief and sorrow. I will also avoid festivities and indulgence in food and alcoholic drinks. I will observe proper etiquette

18、in arranging my parents funerals. I will hold the memorial ceremony and commemorate my parents anniversaries with utmost sincerity. I will serve my departed parents as if they were still alive.Chapter 2Standards for a Younger Brother When Away from HomeIf I am the older sibling, I will befriend the

19、younger ones. If I am the younger sibling, I will respect and love the older ones. Only when I can maintain harmonious relationships with my siblings am I being dutiful to my parents. When I value my familial ties more than property and belongings, no resentment will come between me and my siblings.

20、 When I am careful with words and hold back hurtful comments, my feelings of anger naturally die out.Whether I am drinking, eating, walking, or sitting, I will let the elders go first; the younger ones should follow. When an elder is asking for someone, I will get that person for him right away. if

21、I cannot find that person, I will immediately report back, and put myself at the elders service instead.When I address and elder, I should not call him by his given name. This is in accord with ancient Chinese etiquette. In front of an elder, I will never show off. If I meet an elder I know on the s

22、treet, I will promptly clasp my hands and greet him with a bow. If he does not speak to me, I will step back and respectfully stand aside. Should I be riding a horse and spot an elder I know walking, I will dismount and pay respect to the elder. If I am riding in a carriage, I will stop, get out of

23、the carriage, and ask if I can give the elder a ride. If I meet an elder passing by, I will stand aside and wait respectfully. I will not leave until the elder disappears form my sight.When an elder is standing, I will not sit. After an elder sits down, I sit only when I am told to do so. Before an

24、elder, I will speak softly. But if my voice is too low and hard to hear, it is not appropriate. When meeting an elder, I will walk briskly towards him; when leaving, I will not exit in haste. When answering a question, I will look at the person who is asking me the question.I will serve my uncles as

25、 if I am serving my parents. I will treat my cousins as if they are my own siblings.Chapter 3Be Cautious in My Daily LifeI will get up each morning before my parents; at night, I will go to bed only after my parents have gone to sleep. When I realize that time is passing me by and cannot be turned b

26、ack, and that I am getting older year by year, I will especially treasure the present moment. When I get up in the morning, I will wash my face and brush my teeth. After using the toilet, I will always wash my hands.I must wear my hat straight, and make sure the hooks of my clothes are tied. My sock

27、s and shoes should also be worn neatly and correctly. I will always place my hat and clothes away in their proper places. I will not carelessly throw my clothes around, for that will get them dirty.It is more important that my clothes are clean, rather than how extravagant they are. I will wear only

28、 what is suitable for my station. At home, I will wear clothes according to my family traditions and customs. When it comes to eating and drinking, I will pick and choose my food. I will only eat the right amount; I will not over-eat. I am still young, I must not drink alcohol, when I am drunk, my b

29、ehavior will turn ugly.I will always walk composed, with light and even steps. I will always stand up straight and tall. My bows will always be deep, with hands held in front and arms rounded. I will always pay my respect with reverence. I will not step on doorsills or stand leaning on one leg. I wi

30、ll not sit with my legs apart or sprawled out. I will not rock the lower part of my body while standing or sitting down.I will always lift the curtain slowly, and quietly. I must leave myself ample space when I turn so I will not bump into a corner. I will hold empty containers carefully as if they

31、were full. I will enter empty rooms as if they were occupied. I will avoid doing things in a hurry, as doing things in haste will lead to many mistakes. I should not be afraid of difficult tasks, and I will not become careless when a job is too easy. I will keep away from rowdy places. I will not as

32、k about things that are abnormal or unusual.When I am about to enter a main entrance, I must first ask if someone is inside. Before entering a room, I must first make myself heard, so that those inside know someone is approaching. If someone asks who I am, I must give my name. To answer It is me or Me is not suffic