TED演讲的英文范文三篇.docx

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TED演讲的英文范文三篇

TED演讲的英文范文

20岁光阴不再来WhenIwasinmy20s,Isawmyveryfirstpsychotherapyclient.IwasaPh.D.studentinclinicalpsychologyatBerkeley.Shewasa26-year-oldwomannamedAlex.NowAlexwalkedintoherfirstsession

wearingjeansandabigslouchytop,andshedroppedontothecouchinmyofficeandkickedoffherflatsandtoldmeshewastheretotalkaboutguyproblems.NowwhenIheardthis,Iwassorelieved.Myclassmategotan

arsonistforherfirstclient.AndIgotatwentysomethingwhowantedtotalkaboutboys.ThisIthoughtIcouldhandle.ButIdidnthandleit.WiththefunnystoriesthatAlexwouldbringtosession,itwaseasyformejusttonodmyheadwhilewekickedthecandowntheroad.Thirtysthenew20,Alexwouldsay,andasfarasIcouldtell,shewasright.Workhappenedlater,marriagehappenedlater,kidshappenedlater,evendeathhappened

later.TwentysomethingslikeAlexandIhadnothingbuttime.Butbefore

long,mysupervisorpushedmetopushAlexaboutherlovelife.Ipushedback.Isaid,Sure,shesdatingdown,shessleepingwithaknucklehead,butitsnotlikeshesgoingtomarrytheguy.Andthenmysupervisorsaid,Notyet,butshemightmarrythenextone.Besides,thebesttimetoworkonAlexsmarriageisbeforeshehasone.ThatswhatpsychologistscallanAha!

moment.ThatwasthemomentIrealized,30isnotthenew20.Yes,peoplesettledownlaterthantheyusedto,butthatdidntmakeAlexs20sadevelopmentaldowntime.ThatmadeAlexs20sadevelopmentalsweetspot,andweweresittingthere

blowingit.ThatwaswhenIrealizedthatthissortofbenignneglectwasarealproblem,andithadrealconsequences,notjustforAlexandherlovelifebutforthecareersandthefamiliesandthefuturesof

twentysometingseverywhere.Thereare50milliontwentysomethingsintheUnitedStatesrightnow.Weretalkingabout15percentofthepopulation,or100percentifyouconsiderthatnoonesgettingthroughadulthoodwithoutgoingthroughtheir20sfirst.Ifyouworkwithtwentysomthings,youloveatwentysomething,yourelosingsleepovertwentysomethings,Iwanttosee----Okay.Awesome,twentysometings

reallymatter.SoIspecializeintwentysomethingsbecauseIbelievethateverysingleoneofthose50milliontwentysomethingsdeservestoknowwhatpsychologists,sociologists,neurologistsandfertilityspecialistsalreadyknow:

thatclaimingyour20sisoneofthesimplest,yetmost

transformative,thingsyoucandoforwork,forlove,foryourhappiness,maybeevenfortheworld.Thisisnotmyopinion.Thesearethefacts.Weknowthat80percentoflifesmostdefiningmomentstakeplacebyage35.Thatmeansthateightoutof10ofthedecisionsandexperiencesandAha!

momentsthat

makeyourlifewhatitiswillhavehappenedbyyourmid-30s.Weknowthatthefirst10yearsofacareerhasanexponentialimpactonhowmuchmoney

youregoingtoearn.WekonwthatmorethanhalfofAmericansaremarriedorarelivingwithordatingtheirfuturepartnerby30.Weknowthatthebraincaps

offitssecondandlastgrowthspurtinyour20sasitrewiresitselfforadulthood,whichmeansthatwhateveritisyouwanttochangeaboutyourself,nowisthetimetochangeit.weknowthatpersonalitychangesmoreduringyour20sthanatanyothertimeinlife,andweknowthatfemalefertilitypeaksatage28,andthingsgettrickyafterage35.Soyour20sarethetimetoeducateyourselfaboutyourbodyandyouroptions.Sowhenwethinkaboutchilddevelopment,weallknowthatthefirstfiveyearsareacriticalperiodforlanguageandattachmentinthebrain.Itsatimewhenyour

ordinary,day-to-daylifehasaninordinateimpactonwhoyouwillbecome.Butwhatwehearlessaboutisthattheressuchathingasadultdevelopment,andour20sarethecriticalperiodofadultdevelopment.Butthisisntwhattwentysomethingsarehearing.Newspaperstalkaboutthechangingtimetableofadulthood.Researcherscallthe20sanectendedadolescence.Journalistscoinsillynicknamesfortwentysomethingsliketwixtersandkidults.Asaculture,wehavetrivializedwhatisactuallythedefiningdecadeofadulthood.LeonardBernsteinsaidthattoachievegreatthings,youneedaplanandnotquitenoughtime.Sowhatdoyouthinkhappenswhenyoupatatwentysomethingontheheadandyousay,Youhave10extrayearstostartyourlifeNothinghappens.Youhaverobbedthatpersonofhisurgencyandambition,andabsolutelynothinghappens.Andthenevery

day,smart,interestingtwentysomethingslikeyouorlikeyoursonsand

daughterscomeintomyofficeandsaythingslikethis:

Iknowmyboyfriendsnogoodforme,butthisrelationshipdoesntcount.Imjustkillingtime.Ortheysay,EverybodysaysaslongasIgetstar

tedonacareerbythetimeIm30,Illbefine.Butthenisstartstosoundlikethis:

My20sarealmostover,andIhavenothingtoshowformyself.IhadabetterresumethedayafterIgraduatedfromcollege.Andthenitstartstosoundlikethis:

Datinginmy20swaslikemusicalchairs.Everybodywasrunningaroundandhavingfun,butthensometimearound30itwaslikethemusicturnedoffandeverybodystartedsittingdown.Ididntwanttobetheonlyoneleftstandingup,sosometimesIthinkImarriedmyhusband,becausehewastheclosestchairtometo30.Donotdothat.Okay,nowthatsoundsalittleflip,butmakenomistake,the

stakesareveryhigh.Whenalothasbeenpushedtoyour30s,thereisenormousthirtysomethingpressuretojump-startacareer,pickacity,partnerup,andhavetwoorthreekidsinamuchshorterperiodoftime.Manyofthosethingsareincompatible,andasresearchisjuststartingtoshow,simplyharderandmorestressfultodoallatonceinour30s.The

post-millennialmidlifecrisisisntbyaredsportscar.Itsrealizingyoucanthavethatcareeryounowwant.Itsrealizingyoucanthavethatchildyounowwant,oryoucangiveyourchildasibling.Toomanythirtysomethingsandfortysomethingslookatthemselves,andatme,sittingacrosstheroomandsayabouttheir20s,WhatwasIdoingWhatwasIthinkingIwanttochangewhattwentysomethingsaredoingand

thinking.Heresastoryabouthowthatcango.ItsastoryaboutawomannamedEmma.At25,Emmacametomyofficebecauseshewas,inher

words,havinganidentitycrisis.Shesaidshethoughtshemightliketoworkinartorentertainment,butshehadntdecidedyet,soshedspentthelastfewyearswaitingtablesinstead.Becauseitwascheaper,shelivedwithaboyfriendwhodisplayedhistempermorethanhisambition.Andashardasher20swere,herearlylifehadbeenevenharder.Sheoftencriedinoursessions,butthenwouldcollectherselfbysaying,“Youcantpickyourfamily,butyoucanpickyourfriends.”Welloneday,Emmacomesin,andshehangsherheadinherlap,andshesobbedformostofthehour.Shedjustboughtanewaddressbook,andshedspendthemorningfillinginhermanycontacts,butthenshedbeenleftstaringatthatemptyblankthatcomesafterthewordsIncaseofemergency,pleasecall….Shewasnearlyhystericalwhenshelookedatmeandsaid,“WhosgoingtobethereformeifIgetinacar

wreckWhosgoingtotakecareofmeifIhavecancer”Nowinthatmoment,ittookeverythingIhadnottosay,Iwill.ButwhatEmmaneededwasntsometherapistwhoreally,reallycared.Emmaneededabetterlife,andIknewthiswasherchance.IhadlearnedtoomuchsinceIfirstworkedwithAlextojustsittherewhileEmmasdefiningdecadewentparadingby.Sooverthenextweeksandmonths,ItoldEmma,threethingsthatevery

twentysomething,maleorfemale,deservestohear.First,ItoldEmmatoforgetabouthavinganidentitycrisisandgetsomeidentitycapital.Bygetidentitycapital,Imeandosomethingthataddsvaluetowhoyouare.Do

somethingthatsaninvestmentinwhoyoumightwanttobenext.IdidntknowthefutureofEmmascareer,andnooneknowsthefutureofwork,butIdoknowthis:

Identitycapitalbegetsidentitycapital.Sonowisthetimeforthatcross-countryjob,thatinternship,thatstartupyouwanttotry.Imnotdiscountingtwentysomethingexplorationhere,butIamdiscountingexplorationthatsnotsupposedtocount,which,bytheway,isnotexploration,Thatsprocrastination.ItoldEmmatoexploreworkandmakeitcount.Second,ItoldEmmathattheurbantribeisoverrated.Bestfriendsaregreatforgivingridestotheairport,buttwentysomethingswhohuddletogetherwithlike-mindedpeerslimitwhotheyknow,whattheythink,howtheyspeak,andwheretheywork.Thatnewpieceofcapital,thatnewpersontodatealmostalwayscomesfromoutsidetheinnercircle.Newthingscomefromwhatarecalledourweakties,ourfriendsoffriendsoffriends.Soyes,halfoftwentysomethingsareun-orunder-employed.Buthalfarent,andweaktiesarehowyougetyourselfintothatgroup.Halfofnewjobsareneverposted,soreachingouttoyourneighborsboss,ishowyougetthatun-postedjob.Itsnot

cheating.Itsthescienceofhowinformationspreads.Lastbutnotleast,Emmabelievedthatyoucantpickyour

family,butyoucanpickyourfriends.Nowthiswastrueforhergrowingup,butasatwentysomething,soonEmmawouldpickherfamilewhenshepartneredwithsomeoneandcreatedafamilyofherown.ItoldEmmathetimetostartpickingyourfamilyisnow.Nowyoumaybethinkingthat30isactuallyabettertimetosettledownthan20,oreven25,andIagreewithyou.Butgrabbing

whoeveryourelivingwithorsleepingwithwheneveryoneonFacebookstartswalkingdowntheaisleisnotprogress.Thebesttimetoworkonyourmarriageisbeforeyouhaveone,andthatmeansbeingasintentionalwithloveasyouarewithwork.Pickingyourfamilyisabout

consciouslychoosingwhoandwhatyouwantratherthanjustmakingitworkorkillingtimewithwhoeverhappenstobechoosingyou.SowhathappenedtoEmmaWell.wewentthroughthataddressbook,andshefoundanoldroomm