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TED英语演讲如何成为一个自信的人
TED英语演讲如何成为一个自信的人
多少人一碰到失败就放弃了?
多少人一遇到困难就退缩了?
不管机遇如何,困难多大,哪怕身处逆境,相信自己可以做到,这就是自信。
如何成为一个自信的人?
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自信的定义:
相信自己有在任何困难的情况下完成任务的能力。
自信就是相信自己能够做到。
自信是一种技能,是能够培育出来的。
1、重复重复再重复。
当你的技能通过不断刻意练习而变得炉火纯青之后,就容易获得自信。
在反复练习的过程中,你遇到的困难是如何在失败后不气馁,如何在平台期时不急躁。
实力是自信的资本。
对于自己做得好的事情,我们往往会更有自信。
所以,努力提高自己的实力会让自己更自信。
2、自我鼓励。
在和自己对话的时候用积极正面的想法替换掉之前消极的想法。
已经有太多人认为我们做不到,认为我们不够好了,我们自己也要那么想呢?
要相信我是自己生活的主宰。
如果自己都不相信,又会有谁相信呢?
3、远离那些会拖你后腿的人。
或许我们身边总是不乏这样的人,在我们追逐梦想的时候,总是冷嘲热讽。
我们需要坚持梦想,不去听那些人的声音,等你爬的更高,那些声音也就听不到了。
我们要多和志同道合、可以互相鼓励的人在一起。
4、给自己写自夸信,记录生命中辉煌的时刻。
写下自己的成就,当你意志消沉的时候就拿出来看看,就会发现其实自己也挺厉害的呢。
5、改变自己的解读方式。
多做正面、积极的解读。
如何帮助别人建立自信:
恰当地夸赞别人做得好的地方,把注意力放在别人的优点上面。
Inmypastlifeasasoercoach,onyouwonanationalchampionship,everyonewantstoeplayforyou.
Reallynottrue.Onyoupaidthem$25,000ayearinscholarships,everybodywantstoeplayforyou.Andparentswouldalwaysetomeandthey’dsay:
“Okay,mysonormydaughterwantstoeplayatyouruniversity,whatisitthatwehavetodo?
Youknow,whatareyoulookingfor?
”
AndbeingtheSocraticprofessorthatIam,Isay,well,whatdoesyoursonordaughterdo?
Whatdotheydoreallywellthatwe’dbeinterestedin?
Andtypicallytheiranswersare,well,they’vegotgreatvision.They’rereallygood.Theycanseetheentirefield.Or,mydaughteristhefastestplayer,there’snobodythatcanbeather.Or,myson’sgotagreatleft-footer.Reallygreatintheairandcanhiteveryball.
I’mlike:
“Yeah,notbad;buttobequitehonestwithyou,thosearethelastthingsI’mlookingfor.Themostimportantthing?
Self-confiden.”Withoutthatskill,andIusethewordskillintentionally,withoutthatskill,weareuselessasasoerplayer.Becausewhenyoulosesightorbeliefinyourself,we’redonefor.
Iusethedefinitionofself-confidentobetheabilityorthebelieftobelieveinyourself,toaomplishanytask,nottertheodds,notterthedifficulty,nottertheadversity.Thebeliefthatyoucanaomplishit–self-confiden.
Someofyouaresaying,“Great,Idon’thaveit.I’msoshy.I’llneverdothat,bla,bla,bla.”Andyoustarttodragallthewaydownhere.But,IusethewordskillbecauseIbelieveitcanbetrained.AndI’llshowyouacoupleofwaysinwhichwedo.HopefullyIwon’trunoutoftime.Idon’tuseanyslidesbecausemyspeechalwaysgoeshere,orhere,orhere.Sowe’llseewhichwaywegetto.
Theeasiestwaytobuildself-confiden:
there’snogicbutton.Ican’tsay:
“Hey,thisplaneisgoingdown,whocanfly?
Putyourhandup.”“Ican,I’mconfident!
”
Repetition,repetition,repetition.Right?
WhatdoesMalGladwellcallit,the10,000-hourrule?
There’snogicbutton.
IrecruitedagoaliefromColombia,SouthAmericaoneyear.Big,tall6’3″n.Youknow,hehadhandslikestone.IthoughthewaslikeFlipper.EverytimeIthrewhimtheball,down,ontotheground.Iwaslike,ohmygod,we’reintrouble.
Simplesolution:
gettothewall,kickaballagainstthewallandcatchit.Kicktheballagainstthewallandcatchit.Hisgoalwas350adayforeightmonths.Hecameback,hishandswerecalloused,themoistureonhishandswereliterallygone,heisnowplayinginEurope.Magic?
No.
Repetition,repetition,repetition.Theproblemis,weexpecttobeself-confidentbutwecan’tbeunlesstheskill,orthetaskwe’redoing,isnotnovel,isnotnewtous.WewanttobeinasituationwherewehavesomuchpressureinthatandwhatImean,becausepressurebuildsdiamonds,wewanttobeinasituationwhere“Hey,I’vedonethisathousandtimes”.
Ididmyspeech,andIpractidinfrontofamirror:
bla,bla,bla,bla,bla,bla.HeyI’msoundinggood.AndthenIwentinfrontofmykids,andmywife.Isaid,ohgosh,Igotalittlenervous.
ThenI’dgetinfrontofGlennGould,Ohmygoodness,Iamalittlemorenervous!
BythetimeIgettotheACG,where2,500people,can’tsayanymore,right?
Twenty-fivehundredpeople,wheretwenty-fivehundredpeoplearethere,Iwon’thaveasingleounofnervousnessbecauseofmyabilitytopracti.Right?
Over,andover,andover,again.
Theproblemwithrepetitionis:
hownyofusbailafterthefirstbitoffailure?
Hownyofusbailafterthefirstbitofadversity?
Edisonwasonthatvideo,anditdependswhoyouask,there’sanywherefrom1,000to10,000triestobuildthatlightbulb.1,000to10,000.
J.KRowlingshouldbeonthatvideo.DoyouknowhownypublishersshetookherHarryPotterbookto?
Ibelievethenumberwas12or13…Iamprettyconfidentbutaftertwoorthreeno’sI’dbelike:
“damnit!
”.
Aftersixorseven,I’mlike:
“ybenot!
”Definitelyafternineorten,I’dbelookingtobeasoercoachorsomethingelsebesidesanauthor.Right?
Imean,twelvetimessomebodysaidno.But,practi,practi,practi,anddonotaeptfailure.
Maybeitshouldn’tberepetition,ybetheanswershouldbepersisten.Becauseweallrepeatsomethingbutveryfewofusreallywillpersist.Sothat’sonewaytobuildself-confiden.
Getoutthere.Dowhatyouwanttodoanddonotaeptno.Theotheroneisself-talk.Weallhaveaself-talktapethatplaysinourhead.Anybodygoshoppingandputonapairofpantsthisweek?
Ifyou’reawon,thefirstthingthatalwayses:
“DamnIlookfatinthesepants!
.”
Andifyou’rean,it’stheopposite:
“Ohgod,Igotnomuscle,I’msoflabby!
”Right?
Weallhavethistapethatplaysinourhead.Asastudent,iftheyaskedmethequestion,itwaslike:
“Oh,geepleaseprofessordon’tpickme,Idon’tknowtheanswer.”I’dlookdown.Right?
Ifyou’reintheb…whenI,letmeyousomething,andtheVPofbusinessadminishere,Ishouldn’trepeatthis,butwhentheyhiredmeasanathleticsdirector,Isatinanarchitect’smeeting,andIamasdumbasapostwhenitestoanythingtodowithnumbersandangles.
Andtheyarelike:
thefundibulatorvalveofthearchitectural,uh,whatdoyouthinkdoctorJoseph?
Uh,letmelookintothatforyouandgetbacktoyou.Right?
Iwasina,ohgodgod,pleasedon’taskme,pleasedon’taskme.Weallhavethisnegativeself-talkthatgoesinourhead.
Guesswhat?
There’senoughpeoplethatareinguswecan’tdoit.Thatwe’renotgoodenough.Whydowewanttoourselvesthat?
Weknowforafactthatthoughtsinfluenactions.WesawittherewiththevideoSheldon,Dr.Levyshowed.
Weknowthatourthoughtsinfluenactions,whydowewanttosaythatnegativeself-talktoourselves?
Weneedtogetourownself-affirtions.MuhamdAli,whatwashisself-affirtion?
Iamthegreatest!
Whoelseisgoingtoyou?
Thereneedtobequietmomentsinyourbedroom,quietmomentswhenyou’rebrushingyourteeth.Thatweneedtoreaffirm:
“Iamthecaptainofmyshipandthesterofmyfate!
”Thatismyaffirtion.
Icamefromaschoolofonethousandpeople,Ilivedinatownofonethousandpeopleforfifteenyears;there’snoreasonthatIshouldbeinchargeofanAthleticsdepartment,buildingpleleafgardens.ButIamthecaptainofmyshipandthesterofmyfate.
IfIdon’tsayit,ifIdon’tbelieveit,nooneelsewill.Howdoyoubuildself-confiden?
Getawayfromthepeoplewhowilltearyoudown.There’senoughofthat.
MuhamdAli,Iamthegreatest!
Thereisnoonebetterthanme.There’sadifferenbetweenhubris,andego,andfalsepride.It’sjustremindingyourselfinquietsilentmoments,Iputitdownonalist,it’srightbesidemymirror,right?
aboutallthethingsthatkemewhoIam.
BecauseIkeenoughmistakes,andthenewspaperswillrecognizeit,andpeoplearoundmewillrecognizeit;andthey’lltearmedown,andprettysoonI’llbegintobelieveit.
Therewasatimewhenmyconfidenwasreallylow.TherewasatimewhenItookthisjobwhenIcamefromIowa,Idon’tknowifIcoulddoit.Ihadtobringoutmyself-confidenletter.AletterIwrotetomyselfwhenIwasfeelinggood.Ivan,congratulationsongettingyourPhDbefore40.Congra…Iam40,under.Congratulationsonwinninganationalchampionship.Goodjobonraisingthreegoodkidsandrryingtherightwon.
Iwrotealettertomyself,itwasmyownbragsheet.MyownletteraboutthethingsIwasproudof.Becausetherearemoments,andwe’llallexperientheminourcareer,inourlives,inourjobhunting,inourrelationships;whenwearenotfeelinggoodaboutwho,andwhat,andwhereweare.
AndIhadtobringoutthatletterandreadittimeandtimeagain,foraperiodofabouttwoweeks,toweathermethroughthatstorm.Itwasimportant.Stopthenegativeself-talk.Ifyouwatchyou’llseesomeathletesthathavealittlebandage,oralittlebrandaroundthem.
LanArmstrongisaperfectone.What’shisself-affirtion?
Livestrongisn’tabrand,itwastoremindhimofwhohewas.Livestrong.Thenitbecameabrand.Hewouldmovethatfromonearmtothenextarm,whendoubtandfearcameintohismind.Livestrong,putitonthere,let’sgo.We’llallhaveit,weplait.
Twowaystobuildself-confiden.I’mworriedaboutmytime,I’mgoingtoyouofonewayyoucanbuildself-confideninothers.Wearecoachesandeducators,weareteachers,wearepeoplewhowillcreatevalueintheworld;andindoingthat,wearecriticalbythenatureofwhatwedo.
Iamacoach,Iwantyoutoscoreagoal.Theballwentoverhigh.“Dangit!
”Theballwenthigh!
“Thankyoucoach,Iknowthat.Feedbacksmethat.”Sowhatdowedo?
Ineedyoutoputyourelbowhere,Ineedyoutoputyourkneeovertheball,Ineedyoutofollowthrough.Boom.Land.Great.
Noti,Ineverdeitasaprofessional.Whatcanwedo?
Wefixmistakes.WhenI’mfixingthatmistake:
“Johnny,thisisterrible,youneedtobendyourknee,youneedtodothis,this.”