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aboutfriendshipandlove

Friendsandfriendship:

Friendshipisoneofthebasicbondsbetweenhumanbeings.Allofusareinvolvedinpersonalrelationships.Someofthesearerelatedtofamilyandsomearerelatedtofriendsorcolleagues.Mostoftheserelationshipsarehappy,positiverelationships,butsomearethenegativeones.Weallunderstandthatourfeelingsandinterestinotherpersonsdependonwhatwehaveincommontoagreaterextent.Goodrelationshipsareusuallyvaluedbecausepeoplefeelhappierandhavemorefunintherelationship.

Therearemanylevelsoffriendship.Thedegreeoffriendshipdependsonthesincerityofbothsides.Extrovertsenjoybeingsurroundedbymanypeoplewhereasintrovertsarecontentwithfewerfriends.Everyoneisnotequallyopenwithalltheirfriends.Thedegreeofintimacyisdeterminedbymanyfactors.Truefriendssharenotonlyjoysbutalsosorrows.Withfriendship,lifeishappyandharmonious.Withoutfriendship,lifeissadandunfortunate.

HowtoKeeponGoodTermswithRoommates?

Formostfreshmen,universitydormlifeisa“fresh”experience.However,studentsfromallcornersofthecountrymaysoonfind,apartfromaccents,theyhavetofacealotofotherdifferences.Forexample,earlybirds（早起的人）andnightowls（夜猫子）disturbeachother.Foranotherexample,lazyboneswhodolittlecleaningmay“pollute”theroomwithsmellysocks.What’smore,whileoneisusedtolivinginaquietatmosphere,hisroommateshappentobechatterboxes唠叨的人,talkingoverthephoneforlong.Therearemanyconflictsamongthem.Harmonioussurroundingswillhelpthemmakeacademicprogress,fosterfriendshipanddevelopcommunicationskills.Inacertainsense,adormflatistheir“secondhome”,theroommatestodaymaybecomecolleaguesandlifelongfriendstomorrow.Iftheycouldnotgetalongwellthroughoutthefouryears,theycouldnotworkandstudyeffectivelyinthefuture.Thenhowcouldflat-matesgetalongwell?

Firstandforemost,respecteachother.Secondly,betolerant.Neverlosetemperwhenoffended,andtrytotalkfranklywhendisagreementsarise.Thirdly,beconsiderate.Youwalkontiptoeatnaptimeandhelpyourroommatesgetclothesbackbeforerainfall.Lastbutnotleast,setsomeeffectiverulesandfollowthemconsciously.Ifroommatesfollowthesepiecesofadvice,yearslater,thedormlifewillbeacherishedandunforgettablememoryofyourcollegelife.

1.RoommatesandMajorsinAmericanColleges:

Freshmanroommatesareusuallyassignedrandomly,withnoattentiontotheirmajors,andmayhavelittleincommonwithoneanothereitheracademicallyorpersonally.Theymaytakenoneofthesameclasses,anddonothavetochoosetheirmajorsthefirstyear.Infutureyearsit’sveryeasytochangeroommates,andinthejuniororsenioryearit’squitecommonforstudentstomovetooff-campusapartments.Sothere’smuchlesslikelihoodthatfreshmanroommateswillbecomelifelongfriends.一年级新生常常并不按专业分配寝室。

室友的学习和个性也毫无相同之处。

上的课完全不一样，而且也不必选定专业。

以后，更换室友是很容易的事。

读大三和大四时，学生常搬到校外公寓去住。

因此，新生之间很难产生永恒的友谊。

2.AmericanandChineseFriendships:

Americansareveryadaptatmakingnewfriends,whileChinesepeopleareveryskillfulatkeepingtheiroldfriends.ThemainreasonforthisisthatAmericansexperiencemorechangesintheirpersonalcircumstances,suchaschangingjobs,movingtoanothertown,orgettingdivorced.AtanygiventimeanAmericanmayhaveonlyafewclosefriendsbutmanycasualacquaintances.OverthecourseofalifetimeanAmericanwillprobablyhavemorefriendsthanaChinesepersonhasbutaChinesepersonmayhavemorelifelongfriends.//intimate美国人很容易交新朋友。

中国人则善于维系老友的情谊。

其主要原因就在于美国人一生要经历更多周边环境的变化。

如变换工作，搬迁到另一城市，或夫妻分道扬镳。

在任一特定的时候美国人都只有为数不多的几个知心朋友，更多的是泛泛之交。

美国人的一生中交的朋友可能比中国人要多，但中国人的挚交则多于美国人。

3.ClassReunions:

InmanyWesterncountriesitiscustomaryforthepeoplewhograduatedfromacollegeorschoolinthesameyeartogatherperiodicallyatthecampusorintheirhometownforaclassreunion.Itoftenincludesparties,dinners,dancing,golfing,bowling,andotherspecialeventssuchasvisitswithformerteachers.Reunionsusuallyoccureveryfiveyears,beginningfiveyearsaftergraduation.Certainreunionssuchasthe10th,25th,and50thareoftenconsideredspecial,andaremoreelaboratethantheothers.在很多西方国家,同一年毕业于某大学或学院的人有定期班级聚会的传统。

聚会可以是在母校，也可以在家乡。

内容有聚会，聚餐，跳舞，打高尔夫球，玩保龄球，或拜访老师等特别安排。

聚会常常是五周年一次，从毕业离校的五年后开始。

而十周年，二十五周年和五十周年以及其他特定意义的聚会比一般性聚会要安排得更为周到和详尽。

1.Describearelationshipyouhaveestablishedsometimeagothatmakesyouwell-impressed,includingtheinformationastowhereyoumet,howyouarealike,andwhatyoudotogetherandhowitwillbegoingonetc.

2.What’sthebestwaytomeetyourMr.RightorMs.Right?

Why?

3.Casediscussion:

DavidisgoodtoJoan,butanothergirlCathywantstobehisgirlfriend,sohejustgoesbetweenthesetwowomen.Howcanyousolvethisproblem?

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Tellherwhatyouthinkofthat//tellherdirectlythatyouloveJoaninstead,foryoutwohavebeentogetherforalongtimeandthatyouhaveplanedtomarryher,makingherknowthatshewon’thavetheopportunitytobewithyou

it’stherightthingforhimtodoso—it’srightofsbtodosth,otherwisehewillfeelsorryforher//ifDavidlovesCathytosomeextent,hewillhaveamentalbattlewithhisconscienceastowhetherheshouldleave（goawayfrom）Joanornot//it’shumannaturetogetwhathelikesorwants,sohewillbecomeselfish,payingnoattentiontoothers

shewantstomarryherselftoDavid//DavidwantstomarryJoan//hecan’tjustgobetweenthetwowomen//hehastomakeuphismindtoleaveorstaywithher//it’simmoral/wrongofsbtostaybetweenthetwo,orhisbehaviorwilljusthurteitherofthetwoverymuch//heshouldbesensible//it’smoresensible（advisable）ofhimtodo//menwouldliketohaveagoodwifeandanotherbeautifulwomanatthesametime,makinghimhappyandexcited//

Womenhavetobesensibletoprotectthemselves,tryingtoseeclearlywhetherthemanisagoodman,tryingnottobeflattered（treated,deceived）byhissweetwords//nevercountonhiswealthandhissocialstatus//hispersonalityorhisquality（ofbeingaman）reallycounts//wewillloveamanofvirtue//beingkind,honest,selfish//selfless//loyal,helpful,good-tempered,optimistic,

broad-minded（narrow-minded）,Irritable,alwayslosinghistemper,rude

Showourrespectforthegood//caremoreaboutyou//islovingorcaring//beverymuchconcernedaboutothers//wedon’tlikehimtobeaplayboy//hemaygoleavinghiswifewithtwokids//heisstone-hearted//it’sagainsthisconsciencetodo//feeldesperate,verymiserable,distressed/dismayed/hopeless//Lifebecomesempty,meaningless

//itseemsit’stheendoftheworld//beabletobuildgoodrelationshipwiththefamilymembers//canliveinharmonywiththeothermembersofthefamily//fallinlovewithsb//theygetdivorced//theirmarriagebrokeup//

theyhavemadeup（witheachother）//theybecomelovers,onebeingthesweetheartoftheother/theytwobegintotalklove//theyquarrelwitheachother//theycan’tagreewitheachother,sotheyseparatefromeachother//

Theyhavegotengaged,gotmarried,gotdivorced//heshouldbegoodorgeneroustoyourmother/mean//youtwohavemadeup//themanhasanotherwoman

Theyhaveillegalsexualrelations//it’sstrangethatsomewomenoftenfallinlovewithbadmen,forthosemenareoftengoodatsayingsweetwordstothem,womenliketobeflattered,theycan’tstoplovingthemwhentheyareflattered,theywilltrytoimprovetheminsteadofgoingawayfromthem,whichwillturnouttobethewrongthingmostofthecases

Fallinlovewithsbatfirstsight//it’shisownwishfulthinking//one-sidedlove

Theyhavelover’svows,promisingthatIwillloveyouforever//theyaremutualattractionstoeachother//matchmaker---Iamyourgo-between

loseone’slove//gainone’slove/winone’sfavor//wetwobegintotalklove

ShehasherblinddateonSunday//

Manproposesformarriage//makeaproposaltoherforamarriage

Theyarewell-matchedinsocialandeconomicstatus

Theygotothematrimonialagencyforamarriagecertificate.

Beautyisintheeyesofthelover/beholder

Hegivesyouapresent---it’salovetoken//heisarivalinlove//

Theyhavetrialmarriage

Theyhaveseparation/theyhavelimiteddivorce

Theyhave（brokenmarriage）,

Theyhaveawillingdivorce//

Theygetdivorcedbyconsent//getdivorcedbydecreeofcourt

Theypromisetogrowoldtogether//

Fiancée（wife-to-be）,fiancé（husband-to-be）

Ex-wife,step-mother/wife//bride/bridegroom//brides-mate,groomsman

Theystaytogetherjustoutofsexualimpulsewithoutlovingeachotherverymuch

TheyworshipHeavenandEarth//

Theybowtothegroom’sparents/

Theyexchangebowsbetweeneachother（husbandandwife）

Tuxedo//weddinggown/dress

It’sfunnytoteasethebrideandgroomontheweddingnight.

Idon’twanttobehis/herlover.

Hehasanotherwoman,goingbetweenhiswifeandtheotherwoman

Hemustbesincereandloyal,Idon’twanthimtobeaplayboy/tobeamanwithalotofloveexperience//hehasmanyloveexperiences

He/sheisoldenoughtotalklove/hehasbeenmature/hasgrownup

Myparentsdonotencouragemetomakeaboyfriendincollege,buttheywon’tgetstronglyopposedtomeeither,theyjustletmemakemyowndecisionorletmetakegoodcareofmyself.